Coaching Areas of Expertise

Lack of Confidence

 

                I have seen several clients who have experienced low confidence. This has impacted on all areas of their lives. It is a belief that lacking of

confidence can

sometimes just affect one aspect of a person's life, however I believe this is not the case. The lacking of confidence and self belief impacts on everything you

say

and do. Do any of these examples sound familiar and resonate with you??

 

"Not accepting the job offer because you do not feel you will be successful in the job role and you don't want to be seen as a failure"

 

"Refusing to confront an issue for fear of reprisal and humiliation"

 

"Not following your dreams, because you just don't think you are good enough"

"Declining invitations to functions, because you feel that you will be ignored or ridiculed"

"Not having the courage to ask for help, for fear of rejection"

Constant Negative Outlook

 

               This is a very common perception for many people. This is connected with lacking of confidence and in turn causes the negative outlook. Some of

                          my clients glass has always been half empty because they chose to see things in a more negative light so that when bad things do happen they a

          re justified for believing that this is the case. When you are in the "negative zone", everything appears to be dark and they see nothing but negativity

and dismay.

Do any of these examples resonate with you???

"I knew my computer was going to break one day and now it has"

"It always rains when I am going out"

"I never have any luck"

"I hate my job and my boss hates me"

"The world is a horrible place and everybody hates me"

Self Esteem & Self-Worth

I have experienced so many clients who do not believe in their own self worth. They tend to forget or blot out what they have achieved in their lives and instead focus on what they have not done or gained. They make comparisons on what others have and what they feel they will never be able to have. Self worth and self esteem is very closely connected to lacking of confidence and negativity. It is your belief that you are not worthy. It is not necessarily the view of others, but you choose to think that this is the case. Some examples of this may include:

"I wish I was as attractive and confident as him/her"​

"I look so fat, I just can't seem to lose any weight"

"I will never be able to get that job"

"He/She will never ask me out because I am not pretty or intelligent enough"

"They have achieved so much in their career and I am still in the same job role"

Suppressed Issues

 Suppressed Issues/Trauma is another aspect which I have dealt with on a personal and professional basis. It is so easy to suppress things we don't want to think about or talk about. This suppression will never be dealt with and will fester unless it is addressed and managed. If not addressed issues/trauma will come out of you in a physical form. This will cause health issues because the constant anxiety and stress of not dealing with the problem  

 

I was bullied as a child at school and I never disclosed this information to any of my family or friends for fear of embarrassment, feeling ashamed and being judged. It took years for me to identify why I was feeling and behaving the way I was and to deal with my emotions.  I am now able to deal with the trauma I experienced as a child and I am now at peace with this issue and have moved on and left the negative experience in the past, where it belongs. 

Coping & Dealing With Bullying

Bullying is not just prevalent in the school playground, it is evident in everyday life including an individuals work life, personal life, relationship, family life. As a survivor of bullying, it is important to address it and not disregard the feeling and emotions, as I speak from experience, it will haunt you for life and impact on everything you do. Your personality will alter because the emotions of bullying, if it is not addressed. Learning to cope and deal with bullying will give you the strength to know it is wrong and to make the changes required to stop it from taking place in whatever aspect of your life you are experiencing it. It will also in turn prevent others from having to face the same challenges of bullying. In my experience, bullying made me a "people pleaser", and subservient to others and I was toe worried to speak my mind for fear of being bullied in return. 

Please be aware,  I am a NLP Practitioner Life Coach which involves coaching and helping to change your mindset to a more positive outlook, I am NOT a formal counsellor, clinical psychologist or medical professional. Therefore, my services should NOT be seen as a substitute for conventional mental health and medical services, where these are required. Please see below for Terms & Conditions